My brother Doug died last. He was diagnosed with Stage IV colon cancer late in 2017.
Please excuse the language, but #fuckcancer. Do what you can to help fight cancer. Raise funds, donate, or make sure you get the appropriate checkups at the appropriate times.
I can’t believe that my marathon-running world traveler brother is gone before reaching 50. I will miss the sock pictures. We all will miss the sock pictures.
He leaves behind Ann – a wonderful, brave, strong wife, and their two amazing kids – Will and Maggie. My heart is broken for them. I know they will find their way though, but I hate that they have to.
I was privileged to spend a few days with him in the hospital last week as he realized that there would be no more chemo, no more recovery from the surgery, and no more trips home. His pragmatic courage throughout these precious few difficult days was equal parts inspiring and soul-crushing.
As he struggled to find peace in giving up the fight, there were many short periods where he closed his eyes deep in thought, while drumming his fingers on his collarbone or chest. During one of these, he sighed deeply and said “I wonder what it’s like on the other side.”
I waited a moment, and then said, “It’s probably like Walloon Lake.”
He replied, “Yes, but without the parasites” and we had a good laugh, thinking back to our 2014 trip to Walloon with our cousins, where many of us left with hand foot and mouth disease.
I said, “No, I mean the Walloon where our parents did all the drinking, where your dad could still throw you into the lake, where we could buy into all the drama of a hike to Treasure Mountain.”
“Uncle Dick could dive underwater and tie off the boat of those drunk people with the pontoon boat.”
And so it went for a few minutes, quietly trading the memories of the magical Walloon trips of our childhood.
“Yeah, maybe something like that.”
See you at the lake Doug – my brother, and my friend. I am so glad you were my brother, and I am so sad you are gone.
Ted, The photos of Doug and you through the years are fabulous to see. What a fabulous relationship the two of you obviously have had. Life can certainly be unfair – – and Doug’s passing is a prime example of that. He is an incredible loss to his family, as well as to everyone who knew him and/or worked with him. I send my deepest sympathy to the entire family. Thinking of you, Carolyn Aishton Ouderkirk
Thank you Carolyn
My heart weeps to hear of Dougs passing. May your words be a comfort to Jan and the family as they were to me.
Nancy Hanson
Thank you Nancy!
No words, really. So sorry for all you guys have had to deal with. Unfair and agree 1,000% with the hashtag. I do want to hear the story about the Ferrari though…
Hugs from the Giovanelli’s. We’re keeping an eye on your mom. If you need us to do anything, send up the Batsignal anytime. 24/7.
Thank you Ben!
I’m so sorry to your whole family for your loss. We lost my brother Todd (who was one of Doug’s childhood friends) earlier this year. It’s hard to comprehend but I’m happy for you that you had the opportunity to share memories and say goodbye in a meaningful way. God bless you all.
Thank you Mark. I’m sorry to hear about Todd and wish you peace.
Ted, Tommy McDonald here. So sorry for your loss. Our family feels the same about Up North as you & Doug did. Take care of yourself and Go Blue!
Thanks and Go Blue!
A wonderful collection of pictures. Thanks for sharing!
Thank you Vicki
Ted…I dont know you personally but I know your Mom (and Dad) and I think you may have known our daughter, Amanda. I just wanted you to know that you have shared a beautiful tribute to your brother…i know your Mom and Dad are so proud of both of you…You have a lot of wonderful memories and photos that you will have forever…all priceless. And keep writing…you have such a gift! Jan and Cary Riggs
Thank you Janet 🙂
Ted-My heart breaks for you and your whole family. What a wonderful tribute you created to your brother. Cherish those memories, be strong for your mom, and for Ann, Will, and Maggie. Take good care of yourself and hold your family close. They are all so precious.
Hugs,
Treasa Skiles
Thank you Treasa! Hugs to your family as well